Frequently Asked Questions

We are most passionate when we are doing something that we love and feel like we are doing what we’re meant to be doing. Passion happens when you do things that align with your core values, interests, and loves. Learn as much about yourself as you can. What makes you the happiest? Think of the times you have felt truly alive and motivated; what were you doing? Finding passion is also about listening to your inner voice, without the negative, self-critical voice that we all have from time to time.

Having a vision is so important! Think of your vision as the destination at the end of the exciting train journey you are on. I recommend a 5-year vision, so there are a lot of stations between where you are and your ultimate, fantastic destination. You can change small trips along the way and go to places you may not have intended to go (and have a blast!), but if you’ve chosen the destination well, you’ll make sure you get there. It’s your inspiration, but it’s also achievable. You can change and achieve a lot in 5 years.

It’s okay not to know, and it’s never too late. Career indecision is very common and can happen at any stage in life. We can be significantly influenced by those around us, such as parents, friends, teachers, and bosses. You must put effort into understanding yourself. This takes working out your values, interests, and skills, but most importantly, who you are and what you’d love to do. This sounds easier than it is. It involves work, preferably with guidance from a professional. You don’t want to miss steps in self-awareness.

This takes a bit of exploration. Find someone who is doing it and ask them how they did it. Join communities (on socials and in real life) around the same passion and ask questions like what the main obstacles to success were. What would you do differently if you had your time over again? What are the most essential skills for succeeding in this career? Check back with yourself… does your passion align with your values, skills, and interests? It will have more of a chance of success if it does. Sometimes, we can get passionate about things that are more of a diversion than a long-term interest. That’s okay; there are no wrong things to learn, and it will all get you to a great place if you’re honest with yourself and willing to do the work.

This takes building confidence and self-esteem. Criticism from others can be debilitating, but we can develop our strong self-esteem. Remember, other people’s opinions are none of your business; it’s your opinion of you that truly matters. Put time into things that help you feel good about yourself and shake off any negative energy from others, intentional or unintentional; it’s not helpful! Let it go, Elsa ;-)

All of us have feared failure at some point. It’s a normal feeling, especially when we’re on the edge of significant changes or growth in life and work. The best thing to do is normalise it, accept it, voice it to yourself and work through it. List all the fears and gently challenge them with questions like, Is that a realistic fear? What’s the worst that can happen? What has happened in the past that has led me to this fear? Have I faced similar challenges before and succeeded?

Imposter Syndrome is also extremely common. Every one of my clients has felt this at some point, and it can be the most significant barrier to achieving goals. There is much to unpack when addressing the feelings associated with this issue… where does it come from? Whose voice is the critical voice in your head? Is it true? What are the facts? Would I speak to and judge someone else the way I do myself? Have compassion for yourself and test your thoughts against reality.

Give yourself a break, get out in the world, even if it’s just a walk around the block, set small achievable goals to make you feel good about yourself and start again tomorrow. We can feel unmotivated for many reasons; it’s okay to have a down day; the important thing is to get yourself back up at some point. If you’ve been unmotivated for weeks or months, consider a coach, counsellor, or psychologist. Getting to the root cause of whatever might be holding you back will improve your life.

Habit stacking has had great success with my clients. Habit stacking means having big, life-changing goals but starting with small habits and focusing on them individually. For example, I want to go to the gym four times a week and have a healthy diet. I’m more likely to achieve these goals if I start with a slight change in my habits and focus only on that for a while, then I stack the next small habit on top of the one I’ve already achieved and assimilated into my everyday life. So, to start with, go to the gym once the first week, twice the next week and build from there. When it comes to healthy eating, try one new healthy recipe per week. Before you know it, you’re ready to start bringing in more healthy habits.

Often, young adults entering a complex job market lack the self-awareness, practical skills, and confidence to navigate career and life options. A coach will empower them to bridge that gap by turning passions into plans, doubts into drive, and uncertainty into a clear path to success.